THE SMART WAY TO KEEP A MAN ENGAGED
There’s a way to communicate with a man and keep him invested in you and the relationship -without any convincing at all. We would like to share three communication secrets from a dating advisor – Christian Carter.
COMMUNICATION SECRET #1: Truly Listen
Men – just like women – need to feel like it’s okay to have their feelings, and that they will be heard and respected. And when they realize their partner isn’t really listening or interested in who they truly are or how they truly feel, they will start to shut off bit by bit.
A man can sense how a woman is trying to talk with him or ask him questions, and he can sense if there are intense emotions behind what she’s saying.
Keep this in mind the next time you’re communicating with a man so that you listen without judgement and preconceived ideas about what he “should” say.
COMMUNICATION SECRET #2: Quiet the Criticism
There’s something absolutely critical you need to get about men if you want to enjoy a lasting relationship that feels easy and like a “fit” for YOU and for the man you’re with.
Men do not respond to CRITICISM in relationships.
This might sound obvious, but it’s incredible how many relationships have this dynamic where men either accidentally perceive a woman’s communication as criticism… or where a woman is accidentally criticizing in an effort to make the relationship better.
You should know that most couples do not see it when they’re criticizing each other. That’s why it’s the subtleties of how criticism starts to undermine both partners in the relationship and turn them against each other that makes criticism so destructive.
In the end, criticism will motivate a man to distance himself from you and see your relationship as a negative place he needs to get away from in order to feel better about himself.
COMMUNICATION SECRET #3: Show Appreciation
A man wants to be respected for his thoughts and actions, and the way you communicate this to him is by showing APPRECIATION.
Unfortunately, often times women – especially smart, independent, and successful women – unintentionally block opportunities for a man to please them. In short, they make it difficult for a man to do for them the very things they’d like to receive!
If you’re used to being a go-getter and taking matters into your own hands at work and in your daily life, you might accidentally be preventing a man from stepping in and being THE MAN for you.
This is an easy fix, but it takes practice. It means you need to practice letting go of the reigns of the relationship and LET HIM do more for you. You don’t need to do anything at all for this to happen – all you need to do is stop DOING, and this will create the space for him to move forward and DO for you.