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Where and how to meet potential partners

29  June 2010

This week, we would like to share with you “10 Ways of How to Meet Potential Partners” from David Steele, a  Dating & Relationship coach and author.

1. Develop your own dating game. Your social lives must allow you to create the opportunity for developing meaningful relationships. You must feel good about yourselves and about the friends you finding. Going to bars and playing the waiting game won’t get you where you want to be: enjoying a rich, fulfilling life as a single person, content to choose potential partners carefully and enjoy dating until you find the right person.
2. Where you go is important. Look for activities and events that you enjoy, where you can create positive experiences, you will find your attitudes brightening. Even more important, though, is what you do in the places you go.
3. Practice versus instant results. This is one of the most important concepts for successful dating. There is no failure in practice, for it only building skills and improves self-confidence.  By keeping a focus on practicing behaviours that enhance social desirability and relationship savvy, failure experiences are minimized and success are maximized.
4. Focus on real people. Rather than looking for the ideal partner each time you venture out into the singles marketplace, you can focus on meeting and interacting with the people you do meet.
5. Focus on activities you enjoy. All of this is possible when you choose activities and events that you enjoy.
6. Expanding your world. Without knowing where you are, it’s difficult to plan where you are going.  Taking a look at how much opportunity to meet new singles currently exists in your life. Work, family and friends circles: people you know. Ask for introductions.
7. Activities you are or could potentially be interested in. Brainstorm new activities, and commit to one and follow though.
8. Outside your comfort zone. In order to grow, you have to take some risks – try new things, experiment with new behaviour. This means that you will be moving outside your comfort zones: your familiar and previously determined lifestyles and behaviour
9. Singles events: More ways to meet
10. Practice introducing yourself and developing rapport