June 2011, by Amy Myer
If you are single and just dread going on a date, especially that first date because you are extremely shy, there is no reason to feel all alone in the situation. First thing you should probably realize is that the other person is probably just as nervous about the date as you are. This is especially true if it happens to be a blind date.
There are ways though for you to try and prepare yourself so that you can overcome this shyness before your date. One way to do that is to actually try to focus all of your energy on your date and thinking about how you can make them feel comfortable.
The first thing you need to try to do is to tell yourself that you need to have a positive attitude going into this. Try to imagine yourself on your date having just a wonderful time. You need to tell yourself that you are really going to love this experience. Whatever you do, don’t sit and dwell on dates in the past that may not have gone so well. Simply prepare yourself to have a good time.
The next thing you should do is to actually plan the date. You can help get over your shyness if you prepare yourself for where you are going. Keep your focus on what you are going to do and where you will be going. When you plan out different scenarios it’s going to help you keep your mind off of how shy and nervous you are feeling.
Think about what you might already know about this person. Even if you know just a little bit about them it’s going to help you to prepare to ask questions that will keep a conversation flowing when on your date. Make sure that you go over everything that you already know about your date before you go out with them. This is going to make it easier for you once you are out on the date with them.
Make sure that you wear your best cologne, dress nice but not overly nice and make sure that it is something that brings out your best features and is flattering to you. If you feel you look good then you are going to look good and this is going to help cut down on that shyness.
Once you are out on the date you need to tell yourself to relax. Make sure to take deep breaths. If you breathe deep as to taking shallow breaths is going to help calm down your nerves and it’s going to lessen the tension in the air. Relish the fact that you are getting the opportunity to meet someone new.
You need to be honest right from the beginning. If you are feeling shy then come right out and let them know that you are shy sometimes and this is one of the times. By doing this, you will avoid making your date feel like you have no interest in them and they are more than likely going to feel relieved and completely understand where you are coming from.
Make sure that you do your best to focus on the feelings and needs of your date. Make sure to show them that you respect them and their effort they’ve made to meet up with you and give you a chance to get to know them better. When you concentrate on them you will less likely be as nervous or self conscious. When you feel less self-conscious you are less likely to be overcome with as much shyness either.