The Choice

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By Serene Tng, 11th May 2010

Can you really restore trust after it has been broken? Trust is something two people share that is almost sacred. Trust is being in that safe bubble where you know you can count on someone to be a certain kind of person for you. Trust is that nice, warm feeling knowing that when the whole world collapses, the other person remains the same – ever faithful, ever kind. Trust is closing your eyes knowing that nothing has changed. Trust is what you sometimes build your entire relationship on. Trust, more than love, makes you believe there is certainty and hope for all of us. Sorry, just being melodramatic here.

But trust is so fragile that once it is broken, I am scratching my head wondering how the hell do you ever restore it? I broke the trust between me and my parents some years back and until today, I don’t think I will ever be able to restore it. Someone else broke my trust. Although it’s still early days, unlike the wise sayings, I don’t think time will heal. Doing some patchwork making up for the broken trust might help, but it would take massive giant leaps to overcome the broken trust. And there is a time limit as well. When the trust is immediately broken and there are no steps to rectify it right away, the simmering is what keeps the trust broken for a long time. The point is perhaps, there is no such thing as the perfect trust and faith between two people and maybe we should all just get over it. It is far too unattainable and destroys people just trying to achieve it.

Sorry for the heavy topic today but perhaps you may have an insight about this that might cheer me up. Share with me at serene@thechoice.co.nz