17 August 2010
Are you one of those people who fall into these dating traps? Here are 8 dating traps from David Steele (Founder of Relationship Coaching Institute).
1. Fairytale Trap
This is passively expecting your ideal partner to magically appear so that you can live happily ever after without effort on your part. Believing that finding your soul mate will just “happen.”
2. Date-to-Mate Trap
Becoming an instant couple with everybody you date, as if you’re giving the relationship a test drive. Assuming that by becoming a couple and trying out the relationship that a successful committed relationship will happen.
3. Attraction Trap
Making your choices based solely on feelings of attraction. You interpret a strong attraction to someone as a sign that this relationship is a good choice and is meant to be.
4. Scarcity Trap
Believing there is a limited supply of possible partners so you have to take what you can get or be alone.
5. Rescue Trap
Hoping that a relationship will solve your emotional and financial problems and bring you happiness and fulfillment; like winning the lottery.
6. Love Trap
Interpreting infatuation, attraction, need, good sex, or emotional attachment as love.
7. Sex Trap
Prioritizing physical intimacy and regarding everything else as optional. Your main criterion for a relationship is sexual attraction and physical compatibility.
8. Lone Ranger Trap
You are focused on your goal of finding your life partner and believe that the other relationships in your life are less important and that you do not need anyone’s help. You evaluate the people you meet for their relationship potential and do not take the opportunity to cultivate new friends. Then, you feel isolated and believe that there is a scarcity of potential partner.