31 August 2010
How conscious are you when you date? Do you know who you are and what you want? This week we would like to share with you these five principles of conscious dating from David Steele (Founder of Relationship Coaching Institute).
1. Know who you are and what you want
Understand your values, life purpose, temperament, strengths and weaknesses. Sharpen your clarity about your life vision, relationship requirements, needs, and wants. Like an iceberg, we are typically aware only of the tip, while our success and happiness depends upon what lies below the surface.
2. Be the “Chooser”
Take initiative and responsibility for your outcomes. Don’t react to what, or who, chooses you. Seek to create what you want in your life. Don’t limit yourself to what you can see in front of you. Assume abundance.
3. Balance your heart with your head
Is it chemistry or common sense? It’s both! Make your relationship choices consciously, with your vision, values, goals, and requirements in mind, as well as chemistry and attraction.
4. Practice assertiveness
To get what you really want, you need to say “No” to what you don’t want. Take care of yourself in your relationships by learning to identify and enforce your boundaries.
5. Be a “Successful Single”
Don’t put your life on hold waiting for a relationship to happen. Live your life vision and purpose while you are single. The best way to find your life partner is to be a happy, successful single person living the life that you really want. Pursue your goal of a relationship while living life fully in the present and letting go of your attachment to future outcomes.