The Basics of Meeting A Stranger
Here are some tips to help you actually enjoy your next blind date!
- Be Open Minded
Remember this is a blind date. You have never seen this person before. Don’t form a mental image or have high expectations. You will only be disappointed if he/she is not how you imagined. You will know within the first few minutes whether you are attracted to him/her or not.
- Keep it Short but Sweet
Don’t arrange to meet at the cinema, for dinner, or any where else that could keep you together for more than an hour. Arrange to meet up for a coffee, or during your lunch break. If you are not interested in the person, then you can make a quick exit if you have only agreed to meet for half an hour or an hour, and if you do like him/her then you can stay where you are or arrange to meet up again.
- Be Yourself
One of the biggest mistakes people make when going on a blind date is trying to be someone they aren’t.
When meeting someone for the first time, be yourself. Whether that means going all out, or remaining casual, your personality will shine through only if you’re not trying to be something you aren’t. While first impressions are important, do not feel the need to wear heels on a Sunday if you’d normally wear flip-flop sandals. He/She wants to know who you are; not who you think he/she wants you to be.
- Better Safe than Sorry
Whilst going on a blind date can be exciting and fun, remember that you have no knowledge about the person you are meeting. If you have been set up through mutual friends, they will most likely have a rough idea of your plans. But just in case, make sure someone knows exactly where and when you’re meeting.
- Saying Good-bye
Should you tell him/her you aren’t interested? It’s always best to do whatever you think feels right. If you are interested in going out with him/her again, make sure he/she knows it and tell him/her that you will call. If you aren’t interested in seeing him/her again, make sure that you let him/her know. It’s better to be honest then stringing him/her along to false hopes.
- Getting to Know the person
Pay close attention to the things he/she says, which can reveal a lot. Discussing taste in music, film, food, and art can be a great way to find out if you two have common interests – or nothing in common at all!
You should also look for common “warning signs” when on a blind date. If the person does any of the following, watch out!
Talks about his/her ex throughout the date
Speaks badly about his/her mother or exs
Treats the waiters and/or other people rudely
Remember not everyone’s tastes are the same, and there will be things that you do not like, such as lack of hygiene etc..
These are your own warning signs, so don’t ignore them!